You Are Free To Make a New Decision

Some trees at the Turtle Bay Arboretum 

Thinking about what I would tell children, grandchildren or great grand children about life.

I would say you can always make a new decision about you and your life. The choices, the decisions, you made about yourself and who you are at the age of 2, 15, 20, 50, 71 or 90 can be remade. You can decide again and again and again.

Strange flower found at the Turtle Bay Arboretum

So often we follow the guidelines of our parents or family traditions. We don’t think of what and who we are or want to be, which may be different.... or the same. 

A personal example: because my mother always ordered cheesecake for dessert, as a child I thought it was the best and always loved cheese cake. But somewhere in my 30s I wondered if I really liked this sour, mushy stuff and decided I didn't. 

The same flower after being drenched with rain. 

Family traditions may be conservative or liberal, agnostic or religious. Sometime in our life, if we are to grow, thrive, evolve, we start thinking for our self and doing and being what is true for us. So I would encourage all to make new decisions about who they are. We don’t have to be the same all our lives or make the same decisions all our lives. 

The question is, “What if I make a wrong decision?”

In the 70s I read Jerry Jampolsky’s book "Teach Only Love" in which he says there are only two emotions, love and fear. Around the same time I read Theo’s book on "Meditation" in which he says we experience only two feelings or vibrations, expansion or contraction.

Tree House driveway rose

I would answer there are no wrong decisions, but there are always, always consequences. Consequences are not 100 percent good or bad. They may be mostly freeing, filling you with joy and love. Or they may be mostly constricting, filling you with fear and pain. If you’ve made a decision that is freeing, that enables you to grow and thrive, that fills you with joy, now or in the past, then it could be called good. If it is constrictive and painful, if you are not thriving, it could be called bad. 

Rose bud also along the Tree House driveway

Making the same decisions over and over through the days and years of our life is how we  keep our lives the same. Should our life be constrictive or less than what we need to thrive the power to change our experience from constricted to expansive is always today. 

Going to seed?

 Jerry Jampolsky’s site is where he talks about his ongoing work with Attitudinal Healing. 

Our local Mt. Shasta. Taken Nov. 1st. 

Choose what nourishes you